Don't waste your time on shitty men, friends & coffee

A book I am currently reading has motivated me to reflect on all the things I wish I had known earlier.

What occurred to me in my thoughts was that I really did waste some valuable time on people that did not appreciate me enough or brought some bad energy to my life.

I strongly believe that everything happens for a reason and I do not regret any failed friendships or relationships as I've learned so much from these experiences!

Among other things, they have taught me that if someone wants to be a part of your life, they will make an effort to be so; where there is a will, there is a way - as the old saying goes.

Secondly, I realised that it is wrong to apologize for your feelings. You feel a particular emotion for a reason. If they hurt you and are now trying to turn the situation around & make YOU feel guilty for something they've done, they're not worth your time.

Third - the minute you feel that someone is a bad influence that's making you act like your own evil twin- ditch them and never look back.

Fourth, don't associate yourself with people that put you down or take you down with them. The minute they tell you that you can't do something or encourage you to do bad things that go against your morale is when you should really start wondering whether they're worth your friendship or love.

I personally believe that we meet every single person for a reason and there is always a lesson to be learned from the experience, whether it's a good or a bad one.

It's okay to change as a person and grow apart with people that simply aren't your people.

Oh, and do invest in good coffee. One that makes you feel invincible!

paula

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