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How to tell if the place you work at is toxic & you need to quit asap.

The sad reality is that we spend most of our time at work. Yes, we go on holidays and we hang out with friends and family the other half of the time, but given that we dedicate 8-9 hours of our time to that one place 5 days per week makes it a key and unavoidable part of our life - and I truly wish that everyone had the choice to work in a place they like and with people whose company they enjoy.

Unfortunately, no workplace is perfect and to find someone who loves their job and the people they work with is rare. But changing jobs isn’t always so easy. We often have to sweep our problems under the carpet and keep going in order to pay the bills.

In some cases, the problem might be with us. Maybe we haven’t yet learned how to deal with everyday pressure or stress? Maybe we still have to acquire the skill of dealing with difficult people efficiently, and changing jobs isn’t the best solution? This is something that we have to ask ourselves as no two situations are the same.

This becomes a real problem when the place you work at is toxic. When you hate getting up from bed in the morning, when you come back home feeling upset and stressed out and you lock yourself in your room because you simply can’t stand the thought of seeing or speaking to anyone... I’ve been in this position before and it wasn’t just about me having a bad day, it was deeper than that.

I wish everyone had the option to quit if they felt like their job was having a bad effect on their mental health. I understand people might be in difficult situations. They might be the only breadwinner in the house, they might suffer from anxiety and fear change and the unknown…One way or another, we have to come to terms with the fact that our health and wellbeing are the most important here. Your boss might be a nice person, but at the end of the day, he wants to make a profit and doesn’t exactly care for you or always have your best interests in mind.

Having worked in a few jobs by now, I've learned how to distinguish between healthy and toxic workplace behaviors. Below I compiled a list of some of the key factors that are worth being considered signs that you should change jobs asap.

-You’re blamed for things that aren’t your fault

-Managers take out their emotions on you

-You’re being bullied or made feel inadequate, in any way

-You often feel mistreated; e.g. your opinion is not taken into account, you’re asked to do things that are not in your job description and you feel uncomfortable doing

-Your superiors don’t show you any sympathy or understanding when you confide in them

These are things I experienced first-hand so I thought they would be important to include. There are definitely more behaviors we should look out for, but in the meantime, if you feel like the place you work at is toxic, please consider changing jobs. Remember that your health (physical and emotional) should be your number 1 priority and the negative impact on either one might be irreversible.

Until next time,

Paula xx
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